Why is Long-Term Change So HARD?
I once coached a senior level executive that I shall call Mike. At the time Mike needed to lose 50 lbs to get back into a healthy weight range. As most senior level executives, Mike shouldered a very high workload and rarely had time to catch his breath.
Mike is a classic people pleaser. When I first started to meet with him I learned very quickly that he would always consent to my homework assignments along with a convincing case that he was going to follow through. In the beginning I left our sessions feeling hopeful that he was going to make change.
My first assignment for Mike was to drink more water and he actually hit that one out of the park.
Then came the sugar…
Seeing Mikes initial progress with the water I was more than confident that I could get him to stop his sugar addiction. “After all” I told myself…”I am an expert in sugar addiction so this should be easy”
“The Pain-Pleasure Ratio” Which Side of The Teeter Totter Are You Sitting?
I want you to think about something in your life that you want to change.
Maybe it’s your weight
Maybe it’s your spending habits
Maybe it’s the way that you talk to your spouse or significant other
Or maybe you want to get more sleep
Now I want you to imagine a teeter totter. On one side is YOU! This side of the teeter-totter represents your current situation replete with all of your current habits. Going with our weight loss example this side of the teeter-totter is loaded with all of he habits that you absolutely love, like eating the foods that you like in the quantities that you like
The Other…SCARY….Side of The Teeter Totter…
On the other side of the teeter-totter is that element of your life that you want to change. Using the weight loss example the other side is represented by all of the things that you will have to change in your life to actually obtain your goal. In case you are still wondering about Mike…well he never got past his sugar addiction and never made real change! It was the scary side of the teeter totter that kept him from making any significant change in his life. And after viewing today’s video you will know why he stayed stagnant to both of our dismay.
In today’s video I will describe WHY this side of the teeter totter keeps us from reaching our goals.
I am excited for this one so without further adieu click on the video below to find out what is stopping you from making true change in your life.
Also please comment and let me know what you are going to do to add PLEASURE to change (you will know what I am talking about after watching the 6 minute video.)
Life is Good!